Friday, August 7, 2015

S I X   T I P S   F O R   A   S M A L L   G U E S T L I S T

So, you've decided to have a small wedding! Awesome, that's what we decided to do and it was the perfect choice for us. Here are six tips to keep in mind when you're trying to keep your guest list small!

1. Choose a number and stick to it.
It's up to you to decide how many people you want at your wedding. How small is small? For Adam and I it was 60 guests. For you it might mean 20, 15, 100! Choose the number that works for you. Once you've decided on that number. STICK WITH IT. (Within reason, I'd say three over &/or under is perfectly fine). Just remember, there's always going to be one more person you're tempted to invite. Then the next thing you know you're wedding has going from 65 to 200!

2. Think of who you'd actually miss.
This is going to be your shortest list. I mean think about it, this is your wedding day are you really going to be thinking about Great Uncle Vernon as you say your vows? Probably not. For example, my list was basically immediate family, my best friend, and her dad and brother. (And my husband & his immediate family of course). These are the people that if they weren't there I would be like, Man... I really wish they were here. These people go to the top of your list, pronto.

3. Who has impacted you.
These are the people who have changed the course of your life for the better. It can anyone from be the person who introduced you to your fiance to your fifth grade science teacher who put you on the career path you're on now. This is something you'll have to decide on your own, but you'll be happy you thought of them.

4. Who are your best friends, right now.
Your most recent roommate, closest friends at church, work besties. The people who are currently your best friends. Those people that when you look at your wedding pictures. You'll be like, "oh my gosh, remember when I used to live with Bethany, what a blast!" Wedding memories and pictures are almost like a little time capsule, who do you want to be a part of that?

5. What family members are you close (and not close) with.
No, mom, Great Uncle Vernon really doesn't need to be invited. When it comes to small weddings, sadly, everyone in the family isn't invited. What family members do you have close relationships with, cousins, aunts, and uncles that have impacted you, or that you've stayed in close communication with. This is the portion that can be tricky, but as long as you're tactful and kind most people will understand and respect your wishes!

6. Don't forget this is about you.
Look down at your list. Make sure that you're not inviting anyone because you're afraid of hurting their feelings. When it comes to weddings some people make the assumption that they're invited (and that's okay, most weddings are really big these days) so you might feel pressured just to add them to the list. DON'T! This is about you if they really care about you, they probably won't take it personally. ;)

Hopefully this helps! And remember, if you're cutting down your list and it just doesn't feel right, maybe a small wedding isn't for you! There's no wrong amount of guests to invite. Do what feels right to you and your fiance. :)

xx Deanna


  1. Great post! I agree with no.6, it's about you :)

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  2. Love this list! It will definitely help in keeping the guest list manageable. :)

    <3 Trou
    The Peculiar Trouth

  3. I haven't clicked over to your blog in a little bit! It looks amazing! Great job!

    Number 5 & 6 are very helpful tips. My mom has 5 siblings so her side of the family is huge. They also live hours away so we're not very close. I think I'm going to toy with the idea of not inviting some of them. & I agree with the "if they really care about you, they probably won't take it personally."